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Reclaiming Your Power: Turning Your Co-Parent’s Insults Into Strengths
When you’re co-parenting with someone who uses manipulation, name-calling, or insulting as a tactic, it’s easy to get pulled into their...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Why the Coercive Co-Parent Tries to Exhaust You and What You Can Do About It
One of the most insidious tactics in coercive co-parenting isn't the yelling or the court threats, it’s exhaustion. Emotional, mental,...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Healing Journey: Signs You’re Breaking Free from Coercive Control
If you’ve ever co-parented with someone who uses coercion, guilt, or control to destabilize you, you know that the grip isn’t always...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Communication with a Coercive Coparent: You’re Not Overreacting. You’re Responding to Repetition.
If you've ever found yourself spiraling after a co-parent's passive-aggressive message, manipulative gesture, or subtle sabotage, only to...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


What They Lack Shows Up in Their Defense Mechanisms: Understanding Coercive Co-Parenting Dynamics
Coercive co-parents often exhibit behaviors and defense mechanisms that reflect their inner deficiencies. These patterns can be...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How Constantly Playing Defense Keeps a High-Conflict Co-Parent in Control (How to Break the Cycle)
Co-parenting with a high-conflict individual can feel like you’re always on the defense. Their accusations, shifting narratives, and...

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


The Trap of All-or-Nothing Thinking in Co-Parenting: How A Rigid Mindset Escalates Conflict and Undermines Collaboration
All-or-nothing thinking, also known as black-and-white thinking, is a cognitive distortion where people view situations in extremes. It’s...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


10 Signs Your Coercive Controlling Ex No Longer Has Power Over You
Dealing with a coercive ex can be a draining and deeply emotional experience. They often manipulate through subtle means, leaving you...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


13 Signs The Children Are Being Emotionally and Psychologically Manipulated by Your Coparent
Emotional manipulation by a co-parent can be harmful to children and can create a toxic environment. Here are some signs that a co-parent...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


11 Things Narcissists Do When They Begin To Lose Control Over You
Divorce is already a challenging process, but when you're divorcing a narcissist, it can become even more complex and emotionally...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Navigating The Negative Impact of Family Coalition in Divorced Families
Divorce is a challenging and emotionally charged process that impacts not only the couple but also their children. As families navigate...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Mastering Assertive Communication For Coparenting: Strategies to Shutdown Manipulation
For coparents dealing with a high-conflict coparent, effective communication is paramount in ensuring a healthy environment for both you...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How To Protect Your Child from Becoming a Pseudo-Spouse
Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, especially when it involves a high-conflict ex-partner. In such situations, the risk of one...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Breaking Free From Enmeshment and Rebuilding Family Dynamics
Family is often considered the cornerstone of our lives, a source of support, love, and understanding. However, not all families function...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


6 Ways The Narcissistic Co-parent Is Surveilling You
The reasons behind their surveilling is rooted in their desire for control and superiority. By knowing every aspect of your life, they...

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


Dating After Divorce: Setting Boundaries With Your Coparent And For The Kids' Well-Being
Many times when going through divorce, if a co-parent has an inferiority complex they will begin dating immediately to fulfill their...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


What Does It Mean To Gaslight (And How To Respond To Your Coparent)
When someone attempts to gaslight you, this refers to a manipulative tactic where they deliberately distort or deny your perception of...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


7 Types of Narcissism And How To Spot Them
Narcissism has increasingly become a very popular word these days for labeling someone’s personality and high-conflict behavior. So...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Identifying Indirect Psychological Abuse Tactics in CoParenting
While some forms of abuse are obvious there are also indirect or more covert forms of abuse that are so subtle they will go under the...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


5 Must-Have Co-Parenting Communication Boundaries
When it comes to transitioning from a romantic relationship to a co-parenting one, it will be essential to establish communication...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read
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