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Why Children Appease a Coercive Co-parent: The Psychology Family Courts Often Miss
Some children have learned that survival is suppression. They sit quietly and say nothing happened, or that it wasn’t that bad. And family court professionals falsely assume everything is okay. Custody shifts and children are stuck in unsafe homes. But silence is not safety. Denial is not the truth. What looks like a child protecting a parent is far more often a child protecting themselves from further abuse and neglect. They are the ones that have to go home to this paren

Jan & Jillian
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12 Warning Signs of an Unfit Co-Parent
When co-parenting involves coercive control, children can experience emotional, psychological, and even physical harm. Courts have a long way to go in recognizing that patterns of manipulation, neglect, and control indicate parental unfitness. Since most court professionals aren’t trained in psychology or coercive control, here are behaviors to look out for when it comes to documenting your case or showing how your coparent may be unfit. Here are 12 Signs of an Unfit Coparen

Jan & Jillian
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Victim of Abuse vs. Victim Mentality: The Psychology Courts Often Get Wrong
In family court, one of the most damaging confusions is between a victim of abuse and a person with a victim mentality. On the surface, both may appear distressed, reactive, or emotional. But psychologically, they operate from completely different places, one from survival, the other from manipulation. Understanding this difference isn’t just semantic. It determines whose voice gets believed, whose evidence gets minimized, and whose narrative shapes the court’s perception of

Jan & Jillian
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The Hidden Dangers of Bribing Your Children: Why Money, Toys, and Trips Aren't the Path to Positive Parenting
In an effort to keep peace, encourage good behavior, or be the favorite parent in a tumultuous co-parenting dynamic some parents turn to...

Jan & Jillian
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