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When a Child Becomes the Messenger: How Triangulation Disrupts Co-Parenting
Triangulation is one of the most covert and damaging tactics used by a coercive co-parent. It's not just about manipulation, it’s about...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Devastating Impact of a Revolving Door of New Partners on Children
Divorce is already a significant transition for children, but when a parent frequently introduces new partners into their lives, the...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Validating Your Child When They Share Abuse or Coercion from a Coercive Co-Parent
Children caught in high-conflict co-parenting situations often experience emotional manipulation, coercion, and even outright abuse at...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Silent Invasion: How Coercive Co-Parents Violate Children’s Boundaries
Co-parenting should be about cooperation, respect, and prioritizing the well-being of the child. However, in cases of coercive...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


10 Things Family Court Gets Wrong About Child Rights
Family courts are often viewed as protectors of children’s best interests. Yet, despite their good intentions, they sometimes get it...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


Children’s Behavior Reflects Their Environment: A Tale of Two Homes
Have you ever noticed how children seem to transform depending on which parent’s home they’re in? In high-conflict co-parenting...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How Constantly Playing Defense Keeps a High-Conflict Co-Parent in Control (How to Break the Cycle)
Co-parenting with a high-conflict individual can feel like you’re always on the defense. Their accusations, shifting narratives, and...

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


The Children's Bill of Rights: Why You Need Them in Your Parenting Plan
When it comes to parenting after a separation or divorce, the focus should always be on what’s best for the children and their rights.

Jan & Jillian
6 min read


What Matters Most In Mediation: Showing Stability and Consistency for Your Child
In the world of two homes, children often crave stability and consistency as their foundational safe place. As a parent, providing these...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Breaking Free From Enmeshment and Rebuilding Family Dynamics
Family is often considered the cornerstone of our lives, a source of support, love, and understanding. However, not all families function...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Dating After Divorce: Setting Boundaries With Your Coparent And For The Kids' Well-Being
Many times when going through divorce, if a co-parent has an inferiority complex they will begin dating immediately to fulfill their...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Top Provisions Left Out Of A Parenting Plan That Make It Easy To Manipulate
If you’re divorcing a high-conflict personality, then you’re going to need an ironclad parenting plan. Somewhere along the way in family...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


Why “Winning” Isn’t Worth It With A High-Conflict Co-Parent
When parents are unable to come to a mutual agreement regarding their children's upbringing, they may find themselves in court to settle...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Signs Of A Coercive Co-Parent And What Lengths They Will Go To Manipulate
Are you constantly questioning yourself? Do you feel like no matter what you say, your co-parent finds a way to flip the script and blame...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Signs Your Children Are Caught In The Middle And Under Distress
If you’re a divorced parent, then your main concern is undoubtedly the well-being of your children. Seeing your child(ren) happy and...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


7 Signs They Are Infringing On Your Parenting Time
Are you concerned that your co-parent is infringing on your parenting time? Knowing what steps to take to protect your rights as a parent...

Jan & Jillian
6 min read


Why You Don’t Want A Standardized Parenting Plan From Family Court
Are you in the process of getting a divorce but aren’t quite sure where to start? More than likely your children are at the forefront of...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How To Respond To An Ex’s Narcissistic Attacks
Divorcing a narcissist can be emotionally, psychologically, and financially taxing. They will find anything they can think of to trigger...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


6 Phrases That Help You Avoid a Conflict With your Coparent
When your co-parent starts attacking you, it can be difficult to stay calm and focused. But if you can keep yourself from giving them an...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


10 Positive Mantras To Recite When Your Co-Parent Pushes Your Buttons
1. I am a great parent Your co-parent may do everything in their power to provoke you, from calling names to telling you how horrible of...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read
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