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How Coercive Co-Parents Fracture the Parent-Child Bond: Understanding the Psychology Behind the Behavior
Co-parenting is challenging even under the best circumstances. But when one parent engages in coercive behavior, the relationship between...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Why the Coercive Co-Parent Tries to Exhaust You and What You Can Do About It
One of the most insidious tactics in coercive co-parenting isn't the yelling or the court threats, it’s exhaustion. Emotional, mental,...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Communication with a Coercive Coparent: You’re Not Overreacting. You’re Responding to Repetition.
If you've ever found yourself spiraling after a co-parent's passive-aggressive message, manipulative gesture, or subtle sabotage, only to...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


What Coercive Control Looks Like After Custody Orders Are in Place
The courtroom may go quiet, but the coercion doesn’t end. It simply evolves. Many believe that once a judge signs off on custody...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Why A Coercive Co-Parent Is In Competition With The Healthy Parent
If your co-parent constantly tries to outshine, undermine, or compete for your child’s attention, it’s not just insecurity, it’s manipulation. Learn the psychology behind competitive co-parenting and how healthy parents can respond.

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


When a Child Becomes the Messenger: How Triangulation Disrupts Co-Parenting
Triangulation is one of the most covert and damaging tactics used by a coercive co-parent. It's not just about manipulation, it’s about...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Narcissistic Co-Parent: What They Say vs. What They Mean
Recognizing Manipulation in Co-Parenting Dynamics When you share custody with a high-conflict co-parent, conversations can feel like...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Devastating Impact of a Revolving Door of New Partners on Children
Divorce is already a significant transition for children, but when a parent frequently introduces new partners into their lives, the...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Hidden Wounds: How Children Internalize Financial Stress and the Deep Psychological Impact
Money is one of the biggest stressors in many households, and whether parents realize it or not, their anxieties around finances don’t...

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


Subtle Signs of Coercive Control in High-Conflict Divorce
Divorce can be difficult under any circumstances, but when one parent engages in coercive control, it becomes an ongoing battle rather...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Validating Your Child When They Share Abuse or Coercion from a Coercive Co-Parent
Children caught in high-conflict co-parenting situations often experience emotional manipulation, coercion, and even outright abuse at...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Silent Invasion: How Coercive Co-Parents Violate Children’s Boundaries
Co-parenting should be about cooperation, respect, and prioritizing the well-being of the child. However, in cases of coercive...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


What They Lack Shows Up in Their Defense Mechanisms: Understanding Coercive Co-Parenting Dynamics
Coercive co-parents often exhibit behaviors and defense mechanisms that reflect their inner deficiencies. These patterns can be...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Children’s Behavior Reflects Their Environment: A Tale of Two Homes
Have you ever noticed how children seem to transform  depending on which parent’s home they’re in? In high-conflict co-parenting...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Hidden Dangers of Bribing Your Children: Why Money, Toys, and Trips Aren't the Path to Positive Parenting
In an effort to keep peace, encourage good behavior, or be the favorite parent in a tumultuous co-parenting dynamic some parents turn to...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Hidden Costs of a Vague Parenting Plan: Why Clarity is Crucial
When navigating the complex waters of co-parenting, a well-structured parenting plan is essential. It's not just a document; it's the...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Children's Bill of Rights: Why You Need Them in Your Parenting Plan
When it comes to parenting after a separation or divorce, the focus should always be on what’s best for the children and their rights.

Jan & Jillian
6 min read


Communicating Collaboratively with a Narcissist: 5 Essential Tips for Holding Boundaries
Communicating with a coparent who is coercive can be challenging. Their tendency to dominate conversations, disregard for the children’s...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Recognizing Signs of Instability in a Co-Parent
Co-parenting can be a struggle when one parent is unable to provide stability, security and love following a separation or divorce....

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Why The High Conflict Coparent Struggles With Being Solution-Focused
Coparenting requires a significant amount of cooperation, communication, and compromise. However, when one parent exhibits complex...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read
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