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When “Good Advice” Becomes Harmful: The Worst Guidance Safe Parents Hear in Coercive Control Custody Cases
Divorcing someone who operates through coercive control isn’t a “high-conflict divorce.” It’s not two people struggling to communicate or...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


Reclaiming Your Power: Turning Your Co-Parent’s Insults Into Strengths
When you’re co-parenting with someone who uses manipulation, name-calling, or insulting as a tactic, it’s easy to get pulled into their...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How Coercive Co-Parents Fracture the Parent-Child Bond: Understanding the Psychology Behind the Behavior
Co-parenting is challenging even under the best circumstances. But when one parent engages in coercive behavior, the relationship between...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Why the Coercive Co-Parent Tries to Exhaust You and What You Can Do About It
One of the most insidious tactics in coercive co-parenting isn't the yelling or the court threats, it’s exhaustion. Emotional, mental,...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Healing Journey: Signs You’re Breaking Free from Coercive Control
If you’ve ever co-parented with someone who uses coercion, guilt, or control to destabilize you, you know that the grip isn’t always...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Communication with a Coercive Coparent: You’re Not Overreacting. You’re Responding to Repetition.
If you've ever found yourself spiraling after a co-parent's passive-aggressive message, manipulative gesture, or subtle sabotage, only to...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


What Coercive Control Looks Like After Custody Orders Are in Place
The courtroom may go quiet, but the coercion doesn’t end. It simply evolves. Many believe that once a judge signs off on custody...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


When Control Hides in Plain Sight: What Family Courts Often Miss About Coercive Parenting Dynamics
In family court battles involving coercive control, the most damaging behaviors are often the hardest to see. When abuse leaves no...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Why A Coercive Co-Parent Is In Competition With The Healthy Parent
If your co-parent constantly tries to outshine, undermine, or compete for your child’s attention, it’s not just insecurity, it’s manipulation. Learn the psychology behind competitive co-parenting and how healthy parents can respond.

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


When a Child Becomes the Messenger: How Triangulation Disrupts Co-Parenting
Triangulation is one of the most covert and damaging tactics used by a coercive co-parent. It's not just about manipulation, it’s about...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Narcissistic Co-Parent: What They Say vs. What They Mean
Recognizing Manipulation in Co-Parenting Dynamics When you share custody with a high-conflict co-parent, conversations can feel like...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Devastating Impact of a Revolving Door of New Partners on Children
Divorce is already a significant transition for children, but when a parent frequently introduces new partners into their lives, the...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Hidden Wounds: How Children Internalize Financial Stress and the Deep Psychological Impact
Money is one of the biggest stressors in many households, and whether parents realize it or not, their anxieties around finances don’t...

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


Psychological Strategy Questions to Use with a Coercive Co-Parent in Mediation
Mediation can be a challenging process when dealing with a coercive co-parent who thrives on manipulation, control, and distorting...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Subtle Signs of Coercive Control in High-Conflict Divorce
Divorce can be difficult under any circumstances, but when one parent engages in coercive control, it becomes an ongoing battle rather...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Validating Your Child When They Share Abuse or Coercion from a Coercive Co-Parent
Children caught in high-conflict co-parenting situations often experience emotional manipulation, coercion, and even outright abuse at...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Hidden Burden: How Parentification Affects Children of Coercive Parents After Divorce
Divorce is difficult for everyone involved, but when one parent becomes coercive and emotionally manipulative, the burden often falls...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Silent Invasion: How Coercive Co-Parents Violate Children’s Boundaries
Co-parenting should be about cooperation, respect, and prioritizing the well-being of the child. However, in cases of coercive...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


What They Lack Shows Up in Their Defense Mechanisms: Understanding Coercive Co-Parenting Dynamics
Coercive co-parents often exhibit behaviors and defense mechanisms that reflect their inner deficiencies. These patterns can be...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


10 Things Family Court Gets Wrong About Child Rights
Family courts are often viewed as protectors of children’s best interests. Yet, despite their good intentions, they sometimes get it...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read
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