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Why Children Appease a Coercive Co-parent: The Psychology Family Courts Often Miss
Some children have learned that survival is suppression. They sit quietly and say nothing happened, or that it wasn’t that bad. And family court professionals falsely assume everything is okay. Custody shifts and children are stuck in unsafe homes. But silence is not safety. Denial is not the truth. What looks like a child protecting a parent is far more often a child protecting themselves from further abuse and neglect. They are the ones that have to go home to this paren

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Why Parents Must Build Their Own Narrative for Court
Court does not discover your story for you. If you don’t clearly and deliberately present what is happening in your child’s life, the court will default to fragments: partial records, third‑party impressions, and assumptions made under time pressure. Judges are not investigators. They rule on what is placed in front of them. That is why only parents can build their narrative for court and why failing to do so leaves critical context invisible. Your attorney won’t do it for yo

Jan & Jillian
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Psychological Strategy Questions to Use with a Coercive Co-Parent in Mediation
Mediation can be a challenging process when dealing with a coercive co-parent who thrives on manipulation, control, and distorting...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Hidden Dangers of Bribing Your Children: Why Money, Toys, and Trips Aren't the Path to Positive Parenting
In an effort to keep peace, encourage good behavior, or be the favorite parent in a tumultuous co-parenting dynamic some parents turn to...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


The Hidden Scars of Coercive Control on Children
In the shadows of homes where coercive control reigns, children often become the unseen victims of a silent and insidious form of abuse....

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Navigating The Negative Impact of Family Coalition in Divorced Families
Divorce is a challenging and emotionally charged process that impacts not only the couple but also their children. As families navigate...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How To Prove You Are A Secure and Stable Co-Parent
When going through a high-conflict divorce many times the court will look at emotional, physical, and environmental factors that support...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Top Provisions Left Out Of A Parenting Plan That Make It Easy To Manipulate
If you’re divorcing a high-conflict personality, then you’re going to need an ironclad parenting plan. Somewhere along the way in family...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


Why “Winning” Isn’t Worth It With A High-Conflict Co-Parent
When parents are unable to come to a mutual agreement regarding their children's upbringing, they may find themselves in court to settle...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Signs Your Children Are Caught In The Middle And Under Distress
If you’re a divorced parent, then your main concern is undoubtedly the well-being of your children. Seeing your child(ren) happy and...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


7 Signs They Are Infringing On Your Parenting Time
Are you concerned that your co-parent is infringing on your parenting time? Knowing what steps to take to protect your rights as a parent...

Jan & Jillian
6 min read


How To Respond To False Accusations From A High-Conflict Co-Parent
If you're a parent dealing with a high-conflict co-parent (HCCP), you know that false accusations can be a common tactic used to get you...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How To Respond To An Ex’s Narcissistic Attacks
Divorcing a narcissist can be emotionally, psychologically, and financially taxing. They will find anything they can think of to trigger...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read
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