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Why A Coercive Co-Parent Is In Competition With The Healthy Parent
If your co-parent constantly tries to outshine, undermine, or compete for your child’s attention, it’s not just insecurity, it’s manipulation. Learn the psychology behind competitive co-parenting and how healthy parents can respond.

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


The Devastating Impact of a Revolving Door of New Partners on Children
Divorce is already a significant transition for children, but when a parent frequently introduces new partners into their lives, the...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Validating Your Child When They Share Abuse or Coercion from a Coercive Co-Parent
Children caught in high-conflict co-parenting situations often experience emotional manipulation, coercion, and even outright abuse at...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


10 Things Family Court Gets Wrong About Child Rights
Family courts are often viewed as protectors of children’s best interests. Yet, despite their good intentions, they sometimes get it...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


Children’s Behavior Reflects Their Environment: A Tale of Two Homes
Have you ever noticed how children seem to transform  depending on which parent’s home they’re in? In high-conflict co-parenting...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Hidden Dangers of Bribing Your Children: Why Money, Toys, and Trips Aren't the Path to Positive Parenting
In an effort to keep peace, encourage good behavior, or be the favorite parent in a tumultuous co-parenting dynamic some parents turn to...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Loyalty Binds in Co-Parenting: How High-Conflict Co-Parents Trap Children in Emotional Conflict
In high-conflict co-parenting situations, children are often caught in the middle of their parents’ disputes, leading to complex...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


How Constantly Playing Defense Keeps a High-Conflict Co-Parent in Control (How to Break the Cycle)
Co-parenting with a high-conflict individual can feel like you’re always on the defense. Their accusations, shifting narratives, and...

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


The Hidden Costs of a Vague Parenting Plan: Why Clarity is Crucial
When navigating the complex waters of co-parenting, a well-structured parenting plan is essential. It's not just a document; it's the...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Children's Bill of Rights: Why You Need Them in Your Parenting Plan
When it comes to parenting after a separation or divorce, the focus should always be on what’s best for the children and their rights.

Jan & Jillian
6 min read


8 Signs They Are Weaponizing The Children Against You
When divorcing a high-conflict co-parent (HCCP) they may continue harm you through the weaponization of the children. Many times they do...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


13 Signs The Children Are Being Emotionally and Psychologically Manipulated by Your Coparent
Emotional manipulation by a co-parent can be harmful to children and can create a toxic environment. Here are some signs that a co-parent...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


Communicating Collaboratively with a Narcissist: 5 Essential Tips for Holding Boundaries
Communicating with a coparent who is coercive can be challenging. Their tendency to dominate conversations, disregard for the children’s...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


The Hidden Scars of Coercive Control on Children
In the shadows of homes where coercive control reigns, children often become the unseen victims of a silent and insidious form of abuse....

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


Unveiling Post-Separation Abuse and Coercive Control: Top 10 Signs and What You Can Do About It
Navigating life after a separation or divorce can be emotionally challenging, but what happens when the challenges extend beyond the...

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


How To Prove You Are A Secure and Stable Co-Parent
When going through a high-conflict divorce many times the court will look at emotional, physical, and environmental factors that support...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How To Protect Your Child from Becoming a Pseudo-Spouse
Co-parenting can be a challenging journey, especially when it involves a high-conflict ex-partner. In such situations, the risk of one...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Why Neglecting Child Activities Leaves Lasting Consequences
Is your co-parent neglecting the kids’ activities? Do they often put their needs before the kids and claim they can do what they want...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


What Does It Mean To Gaslight (And How To Respond To Your Coparent)
When someone attempts to gaslight you, this refers to a manipulative tactic where they deliberately distort or deny your perception of...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Top Provisions Left Out Of A Parenting Plan That Make It Easy To Manipulate
If you’re divorcing a high-conflict personality, then you’re going to need an ironclad parenting plan. Somewhere along the way in family...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read
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