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Victim of Abuse vs. Victim Mentality: The Psychology Courts Often Get Wrong
In family court, one of the most damaging confusions is between a victim of abuse and a person with a victim mentality. On the surface, both may appear distressed, reactive, or emotional. But psychologically, they operate from completely different places, one from survival, the other from manipulation. Understanding this difference isn’t just semantic. It determines whose voice gets believed, whose evidence gets minimized, and whose narrative shapes the court’s perception of

Jan & Jillian
4 min read


When “Good Advice” Becomes Harmful: The Worst Guidance Safe Parents Hear in Coercive Control Custody Cases
Divorcing someone who operates through coercive control isn’t a “high-conflict divorce.” It’s not two people struggling to communicate or...

Jan & Jillian
5 min read


Reclaiming Your Power: Turning Your Co-Parent’s Insults Into Strengths
When you’re co-parenting with someone who uses manipulation, name-calling, or insulting as a tactic, it’s easy to get pulled into their...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Why Children Suppress Emotions with a Coercive Parent and Release Them with the Safe Parent
In a coercive control dynamic, children often live in two very different emotional worlds. With the coercive parent, emotions are...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


Why A Coercive Co-Parent Is In Competition With The Healthy Parent
If your co-parent constantly tries to outshine, undermine, or compete for your child’s attention, it’s not just insecurity, it’s manipulation. Learn the psychology behind competitive co-parenting and how healthy parents can respond.

Jan & Jillian
2 min read


Recognizing Signs of Instability in a Co-Parent
Co-parenting can be a struggle when one parent is unable to provide stability, security and love following a separation or divorce....

Jan & Jillian
3 min read


How To Help Your Kids Use Critical Thinking Skills (When Diffusing False Statements From Coparent)
As a parent, you want to do everything you can to help your child succeed in life. One important skill that will help your child is...

Jan & Jillian
3 min read
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