The holidays are approaching quickly…
This can heavily affect your well-being if you are used to spending the holidays with your ex-spouse. Being newly single during the holidays is often one of the toughest times, especially if it’s not your holiday to have the children.
Things can be bittersweet, to say the least.
But, it doesn’t have to be if you can embrace the upside of taking this time for yourself. Focusing on yourself versus letting the sadness and loneliness consume you is the healthiest thing you can do to start getting your life back.
Here Are 7 Ways To Explore The Holidays And Begin Your New Life Chapter:
1. Join Extended Family Or Friends
While you may no longer be a family unit with your ex-spouse, the holidays don’t have to be completely forgotten. Spending it with extended relatives who you enjoy being around is a great way to still enjoy the holiday festivities. And, if your family doesn’t live close by or you’re not close with them altogether, then it doesn’t hurt to ask a friend or your neighbor if you can join them. Cherish the spirit, the more the merrier, by finding gratitude with those in your life.
2. Volunteer To Help Those In Need
When you’re down in the dumps, one of the best ways to feel better is to give back to those in need. Volunteering at a local soup kitchen, nursing home, or even an animal shelter can allow you to put things back into perspective. While you may be single or without your children this holiday season, life will continue to get brighter day by day. And, sharing a smile can be a meaningful experience exchanged with others.
3. Treat Yourself To Self-Care Appointments
Your stress level has probably been heightened throughout the divorce. The best way to destress is to put your self-care and self-love habits at the top of your to-do list. From meditation, journaling, to days at the spa or gym, this is sure to lower your cortisol levels and get you back to a healthier frame of mind.
4. Escape On Holiday
There is no better way to destress and enjoy the time off from work, then to catch a flight to somewhere exciting or relaxing. From exploring new cultures to naps in the sun on an exotic beach, a holiday away from the holiday is sure to help you forget your worries and allow you to gain clarity on what is next for your journey.
5. Check Something Off Your Bucket List
You are finally free to be you and do whatever your heart desires, so why not take advantage of it. Maybe you have always wanted to learn a foreign language or perhaps you’re a daredevil who is looking to jump out of a plane, whatever makes you happy just go do it! And, don’t think twice about it.
6. Do Fun Activities
While taking personal alone time for yourself is helping you heal, it’s also important not to remain in that emotional state too long. It can prevent you from finding joy again in being you. As you process your heartache with professional guidance, it can help you put on your dancing shoes and get back out there. Go to concerts, comedy shows, cocktail parties or whatever sets your heart on fire and start living for you.
7. Start A New Hobby
Have you been waiting to find that perfect moment to start a photography class or maybe learn how to paint? What is something you can do for hours and not grow tired of? Whatever sparks your soul with passion pursue it while you have the time. Not only is this getting you out of your comfort zone, but is also a great way to reboot your confidence and self-worth if it was diminished during the divorce process.
If all of this sounds like fun, but you still feel you are not ready to explore the holidays alone, then don’t hesitate to reach out to us. We are here to help you get through it and back to fulfilling your heart with joy.