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4 Ways To Boost Your Child’s Self-Confidence


A positive sense of self is extremely important for success. When children feel confident and secure, they are more likely to achieve success in school and accomplish their personal goals.


Parents have a great influence over their children’s self-confidence, which could be affected by divorce. It is pretty easy for children to get wound up by the emotional stress of switching between each parent’s home. However, it is still possible to remind them that they have the love of both of their parents, which will help them move beyond divorce and continue to grow into their own unique individual.


Self-confidence is one of the greatest gifts you can give your child. It will play a role in how they handle setbacks, relationships, and any challenges throughout life. Most importantly, self-confidence is a good indication of how loved, valued, and capable your child feels.


Here Are 4 Ways To Help Boost Your Child’s Self-Confidence:


1.Start The Day With Affirmations

Affirmations can help with your child’s emotional health, confidence, and positive self-talk. No one can influence your child’s life like their own thoughts can. By teaching them ways to talk to themselves, you can pave their path for success and happiness.


It may be difficult to incorporate affirmations into your child’s routine, but having an honest conversation about what they are for and how they work will help your child see the benefit and purpose behind this powerful tool.


A great exercise you and your child can do together is keeping a journal. This is a fun way to reinforce these positive ideas in their mind. However, if they are a teenager then you may want to respect their privacy on this one.


For example, you can have them fill in the blanks with these prompts:


The best part of my day was ____

I am grateful for ____

I am good at ____

I feel happy when ____

I am most proud of ____

I like who I am because ____


These exercises help children express gratitude, practice kindness, and engage in positive self-talk. Eventually, your child will be able to face setbacks with a growth mindset. Instead of saying, “I’m a failure,” you can teach your child to say “I’ll try harder next time!”


2.Create Vision Boards

Having two separate households can put quite a bit of stress on a child. If they do not know what to expect at each parent’s home, their uncertainty can lead to low confidence. One way to combat these negative feelings is to create vision boards.


A vision board serves as a visual reminder of what you want to accomplish or acquire. Children can use these to keep themselves motivated and focused as they face challenges in life. Creating a vision board is a fun and engaging activity to do with your child, and it will help them define what they want out of each parent’s home.


3.Complete Purposeful Weekly Chores

After separating, it is common for parents to overcompensate for their guilt by “buying love” for their children. However, showering your child with gifts will not teach them the value of work and money, ultimately hurting their self-confidence in the future. Rather than constantly giving your child gifts via instant gratification, reward their accomplishments by having them complete purposeful weekly chores.


Assigning weekly chores, such as washing dishes or folding laundry, will teach your child important life skills that they will need later on in life. Learning a skill will teach them patience, time management, and resiliency. It is a good idea to set up a reward system to keep your child motivated to complete these tasks. For example, an allowance will help them learn the value of money, how to budget, and will overall boost their confidence as they realize they are capable of being independent.


Completing chores is also a great way to spend time together as a family. With everyone working towards the same goal, you are building teamwork and teaching responsibility, all while establishing a weekly routine for your child.


4.Set Daily Goals

Learning how to set goals is important for children’s academic and personal success. Goal-setting teaches independence, responsibility, and promotes a “can-do” attitude. When your child accomplishes daily goals, they will gain confidence in their abilities and be able to set more ambitious goals in the future. Set some time aside each day to discuss your child’s daily goals with them. For example, today’s goal could be to make a new friend or get homework done on time. Having this clear pathway will help prevent them from feeling overwhelmed or discouraged.


Children are more likely to work when they see their own progress. You can reward each accomplishment with things like a sticker chart or even praise. When they see how far they have come or how much is left to do, they will be motivated to continue working toward their goals.


Self-confidence has to do with believing in yourself and your abilities. With these 4 tips, you can help your child build up the self-confidence that they carry with them for the rest of their lives.





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