As you go through a separation or divorce, you may be feeling uncertain without answers.
Perhaps, you keep ending up in the same type of toxic relationships and can’t understand why. Or, maybe you haven’t quite found your confidence to trailblaze through life as a partner or parent.
The reason individuals struggle to understand why certain things play out in a particular pattern in life is that they are disconnected from their internal core.
One of the main explanations as to why you may not be living according to your core values is because you faced a painful or traumatic experience in life. During your prime developmental years, you learned how to implement protective defense mechanisms to avoid feeling more pain.
When you created these protective behaviors, you learned how to suppress your emotions instead of processing them to create inner peace. When you keep the pain inside, you end up blaming yourself which weighs heavily on your self-esteem causing you to seek external gratification for acceptance and love.
Looking externally into the world for inner self-reflection will leave you without answers and unable to achieve happiness in your life.
One of the easiest and most effective ways to process your feelings and find answers is through journaling. Journaling gives you the ability to place your thoughts on paper and release them from your mind so you don’t get stuck in a spin cycle of thoughts. It will also help you let go of what no longer serves a purpose in your life.
Where do you begin?
Make an appointment with yourself every morning or evening to write for five to ten minutes a day. This simple, yet powerful mindset exercise will help you transform your mind, understand your emotions, and help you reconnect to your core values.
Here are 30 journal prompts to jump-start the process in finding the answers you are seeking on your life journey:
Three things I have recently learned about myself from my divorce.
How do I value myself when around others?
How can I create security in my life?
Three things I want and need for myself.
What am I passionate about?
When feeling sad, what activities elevate my mood?
How have I challenged myself to step out of my comfort zone since my divorce?
What new vision do I want to create for myself?
Is there anything hindering my growth from becoming who I want to be?
What fears do I have moving forward and how can I see them as opportunities for a new beginning?
How can I show myself more love and gratitude?
If I could start a new hobby what would it be?
Describe the perfect day.
What makes me stand out in a crowd?
What makes me a great parent?
What is my life purpose each day?
Describe what you love about yourself.
What boundaries do I need for myself and others?
What am I most proud of?
What does emotionally and physically healthy look like to me?
What is a new experience I want to try?
What limiting beliefs do I have about myself that I want to challenge and overcome?
What type of home environment do I want for my children?
If I need to let go of one thing, who or what would it be?
What do I need for greater happiness and fulfillment?
Describe three short-term and three long-term goals.
What steps can I take to gain a sense of control over my life again?
What do most people admire about me?
If I had three wishes, what would they be?
What has been my biggest lesson in life?
And, if you’re looking to build your inner confidence or heal emotional triggers, then please feel free to reach out and set-up your complimentary consultation or check out our Trauma to Triumph Online Course