Divorce can be a tough process to go through, both emotionally and mentally. It can be hard to see the light at the end of the tunnel, but it is important to remember that this a temporary setback.
You are strong and capable, and you will get through this.
One of the best things you can do for yourself during this time is to practice self-love. Boot the negative self-talk and focus on all of the positive things about yourself. Indulge in your favorite activities and take care of your mind and emotions. This is a time for you to focus on YOU, heal, and take back your power. You are worth it!
Here Are 5 Ways To Boost Your Self-Love
1.Start A New Hobby
After a divorce, many people find themselves with more free time than they know what to do with. If you're struggling to fill your days, why not consider starting a new hobby? Hobbies can provide a much-needed sense of structure and purpose, and can also be a great way to meet new people.
Whether you're interested in gardening, photography, sports, a new language, or painting, there's sure to be a hobby that's perfect for you. Plus, studies have shown that hobbies can help reduce stress and improve mental well-being. So if you're looking for a way to cope with the aftermath of your divorce, starting a new hobby may be just what you need.
2.Align To Your Values
Experiencing a divorce can be an incredibly emotional time. You may feel sad, anxious, worried, or angry – sometimes all at once. It can be tempting to try to numb these emotions with unhealthy coping mechanisms, like avoidance or binge eating. However, these behaviors will only make you feel worse in the long run.
Instead, try to align your emotions to your values. Aligning to your core values helps you process and rationalize your emotions. This tells you if something is in alignment with your authentic truth or if it is not. Your value system is the root of your self-worth so anything that is the opposite of your values is meant to be rejected. Otherwise, you will feel out of alignment with yourself and cross your personal boundaries.
For example, If you value your health, make a commitment to eat healthy meals and exercise regularly. If you value honesty, make an effort to be honest with yourself and others about how you are feeling. If you value family, reach out to your loved ones for support.
By aligning your actions with your values, you can start to heal emotionally after a divorce. Taking care of yourself in a way that is consistent with your values will help you to cope with the emotions of divorce in a healthy way.
3.Connect With Nature
After going through a divorce, it can be difficult to feel like yourself again. You may feel broken and alone, like your life will never be the same. And, while it may feel that way the sooner you start your healing process, the quicker you’ll begin to find inner peace and happiness.
The healing process doesn't have to be dreadful. In fact, connecting with nature is very tranquil and beneficial. Spending time hiking outside in the sunshine and fresh air, listening to animals of the woods, or hearing the singing of the breeze rustling the leaves of the trees and helping your mind find calmness in the midst of the chaos.
Letting the peacefulness of the natural world wash over you and help you to remember that you are not alone. As you connect with nature, you will begin to feel more connected with yourself and your own inner strength. With time, you will begin to heal the wounds of your divorce and start to build a new life for yourself.
4.Practice Deep Breathing
When we experience any kind of trauma, our physical response is to take shallower breaths. This is because our bodies are preparing for fight-or-flight; we need to be ready to either face the threat or run away from it. However, shallow breathing can actually exacerbate the stress we're feeling, leading to a host of physical and mental health problems. That's why it's so important to focus on deep breathing after experiencing something as traumatic as a divorce.
Deep breathing helps to promote relaxation and calmness, and it also delivers oxygen to our cells, which is essential for healing. It can be difficult to remember to breathe deeply when we're feeling overwhelmed, but there are plenty of resources available to help. There are apps for guided meditation and deep breathing exercises or search on youtube. Taking just 5 to 10 minutes each day to focus on deep breathing can make a world of difference in our healing process after divorce.
Not only does deep breathing help you heal but it also helps you regulate your nervous system when feeling triggered by your co-parent. Regulating your emotions and learning the power of pause will help you think clearly about how to respond with value, rather than emotions.
5.Journal Your Heart Out
A divorce can be one of the most difficult experiences a person can go through. Not only are you dealing with the end of a relationship, but you may also be facing challenges like child custody and financial instability. It's important to find ways to cope with the stress and grief that come with divorce, and one effective way to do this is journaling.
Writing about your experiences can help you to process your emotions and gain clarity about what you're going through. It can also be a way to vent your frustrations and work through your fears. If you're going through a divorce, consider starting a journal. It may just be the key to helping you heal.
Here are journal prompts to get you started. Just 5 minutes a day is all you need.
Are you struggling to find your self-worth after divorce? We are always here to help you process and help you release any emotions that are keeping you trapped from living your new life. If you’re ready for freedom and want a personalized approach, then let's chat more.