If you are going through a high-conflict divorce or co-parenting with a difficult personality, then these Liberated Responses will give you peace of mind and the freedom to detach yourself from the discord. When you’ve been involved with a toxic personality often they will create scenarios or make comments to provoke an emotional reaction from you. Your ex-partner will do this to feel powerful and gain control over the situation.
They may attempt to personally attack you, create false accusations, project their own internal insecurities onto you, by gaslighting or even stonewalling. The best way to deal with these scenarios is to not react emotionally but to limit your interaction and communication with your ex-partner.
When you don’t fuel the fire, it eventually burns out
Here Are 35 Liberated Responses:
Thank you for voicing your perception of me. You’re entitled to your thoughts.
I look forward to when we can effectively communicate and put our child first. At this time, I will continue to abide by our parenting agreement.
This has nothing to do with the matter at hand. Can you answer my original question?
It seems we are on different pages as to what actually occurred.
This style of communication isn’t healthy. When you can respectfully correspond, I’m all ears.
I don’t feel we are getting anywhere productive right now with this conversation. Let’s communicate when things are less heated.
I answered your questions. Thank you.
I am not going to participate in this perceived conflict. I will continue to abide by our parenting agreement.
My personal matters are no longer of your concern. Please keep communication to co-parenting and about our children.
Thank you for your concerns. I will keep you updated if anything happens to our child.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, I will consider them and get back to you.
Please communicate this information to your lawyer.
Please refer to our latest court order on (MM/DD/YY).
How is this benefiting our children?
This statement has no bearing on the raising of our children.
I’m sorry you feel that way.
As stated in my email, I will follow (x,y,z) as stated in our court ordered parenting agreement.
The lack of communication is noted.
Unhealthy communication and accusations hinder the ability to effectively co-parent. I’m more than happy to discuss what is best for our children when communication can be respectful.
Let's agree to move forward.
That is your opinion. However, it isn’t supported by our parenting agreement.
It’s unfortunate you feel that way. Can we please talk about the children now?
Interesting perspective. The facts are (x,y,z)
It’s clear we have reached an impasse in this matter.
If I don't hear back from you by 5pm (or a date), I’ll proceed forward with the children’s schedule.
Thank you for working together.
I will not be accused of such matters. Have a good day.
How would you like to resolve this?
Please provide a copy of the agreement you are referring to.
I am not able to accommodate outside of our agreed court order.
It’s not about our feelings, it is about the kid’s feelings and what is healthiest for them. Are you saying you don’t agree with supporting how the kid’s feel?
This doesn’t seem to be productive.
You are welcome to access the children’s school schedule through the online portal.
Doesn’t seem like this conversation is positive. More than happy to discuss when things have reached a calmer state.
This isn’t about me or you. Let’s get back to focusing on what is best for the children and stick to the facts of the matter.
When feeling attacked, it's best to refrain from reacting and stick to the facts. This will save you time, headaches, and your sanity when dealing with a toxic personality. You choose what you allow to impact you and give power to. The less you say, the more you stay in your own power and will feel inner peace.