Divorce can turn into a dragged out angry battle very quickly when a couple doesn't see eye to eye on splitting up personal assets, creating a fair parenting plan, or the provision of financial support. When it comes to going separate ways due to personal differences, it doesn't have to be a high-conflict discussion.
If you and your ex-spouse are able to communicate amicably it will save you in the long run, emotionally and financially. And if you have children, wouldn't you rather invest your time and financial means into their well-being? As they don't have a say in how their life will get transformed living in two-households.
Here are some things to think about to establish a peaceful resolution:
𝐁𝐞𝐧𝐞𝐟𝐢𝐭𝐬 𝐨𝐟 𝐃𝐢𝐯𝐨𝐫𝐜𝐞 𝐌𝐞𝐝𝐢𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧:
✅ Voluntarily and mutually agree to create a legally sound, equitable agreement
When it comes to creating a marital settlement and parenting plan, the more you are able to find alignment the better of you, your ex-spouse and children will be. At one point in your relationship, you were able to share opinions and come up with a resolution. And as of today, you can still do the same thing when you know it's not about anyone winning or losing here. Its about working together collaboratively for all parties involved, including your children.
✅ Avoid the expense and trauma of litigation
Ending up in divorce court is the last place you want to be when trying to finalize your divorce. Not only can it take years, but it emotionally will cost you your happiness from being able to heal and create a new lifestyle for yourself. Your divorce matters become public, financially you take on litigation fees, and nobody ever feels like they receive what they want in the end.
✅ Minimize emotional costs between you and your ex-spouse
You probably have been fighting for years without a resolution, so why keep fighting when you have already agreed the marriage is over. Its healthier to have low-conflict conversations to work through your assets, finances, and establish parenting plan to reach a resolution between the both of you,
✅ Advocate for your children
Children are the first responsibility when going through a divorce. Making sure they are cared for, receiving support, and given basic life essentials to thrive at-home and in school. Helping them understand the process of going back and forth between two households
✅ Achieve reconciliation quicker
You can resolve your differences in a matter of months, instead of years. Once you enter the court system, the process can become a rather long process because you are no longer in control. You are waiting on lawyers and judge's schedule to make time available to discuss your divorce case instead of setting up meetings on your own with your ex-spouse in consideration.
✅ Learn to solve problems quicker as co-parents after the divorce
Mediation can teach you communication skills on how to negotiate to work as a team when it comes to co-parenting your children. You learn how to see things from both sides and put the children first over your personal needs. Its not about you or your ex-spouse, its about making the children a priority first above all else.
✅ Responsive to meeting all parties needs
A marital settlement and parenting plan is co-created with your ex-spouse that supports both of your needs as well as the children.
✅ Compliance rate is higher
When creating a marital settlement, both spouses are more likely to stick to their agreement because it was created together. The terms were voluntarily and mutually agreed upon making it suitable for everyone.
✅ Matters are kept confidential
When going through mediation, only you, your ex-spouse and the mediator know about what goes in your marital settlement and parenting plan. Your personal and financial matters are kept confidential.